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Finding Freedom: Harry and Meghan and the Making of a Royal Family, by Omid Scobie and Carolyn Durand - Frances Wilson

Features | By Frances Wilson

illustration by Gary Wing

Windsors in the soup

What on earth will Diana-in-Heaven be making of this mess?

It is, after all, her script that the wretched couple are following. Even Meghan’s complaint, quoted by Omid Scobie and Carolyn Durand, that ‘I gave up my entire life for this family’, is plagiarised from the Squidgygate tapes, in which Diana said ‘after all I’ve done for this f***ing family’.

Finding Freedom, with its subliminal echoes of Finding Nemo, Finding Neverland and Nelson Mandela’s Walk to Freedom, should really be called The Autobiography of Harry and Meghan. This is clearly the version of events the Sussexes have agreed between themselves. As one of the book’s many ‘sources’ explains, ‘Harry and Meghan like being in control of their narrative.’

And what a baffling narrative it turns out to be: no one else could have come up with such a mix of self-pity, self-exoneration, self-delusion, self-importance, specialness, bitterness and revenge – and all in the name of earning a privacy that they have already won.

When the Duke and Duchess left for North America at the end of March, they had been given exactly what they asked for: a fresh start, the Queen’s blessings, plus an open door should they wish to return. With Finding Freedom, thrown together while the rest of the world was grappling with the devastating effects of a pandemic, that door has been bolted.

Don’t get me wrong – books should present challenges, and the best books have the power to change the world. But if Diana: Her True Story (1992) contained a series of controlled explosions, Finding Freedom is like a kid running around with a water pistol.

Scobie and Durand are so busy writing down everything Harry and Meghan tell them that they forget to add any logic to their argument. It is therefore unclear whether Harry already felt trapped by Royal privilege when Meghan showed him the walk to freedom, or whether he and Meghan didn’t feel themselves privileged enough: they were placed, we gather, on ‘the back seat to other family members’ and Meghan felt ‘aggrieved’.

Is it because Kate didn’t, we learn, go shopping with her one day on Kensington High Street, or because she was mocked for putting air-fresheners in St George’s Chapel (in fact, the book argues, the Diptyque Baies-scented air-diffusers were ‘approved by all parties involved’)?

Or did the behaviour of Meghan’s own family members make her new situation untenable? On the one hand, the couple argue that their popularity threatened to ‘eclipse’ the rest of the Royals; on the other, they bleat about their increasingly negative press. And so it goes on: they felt ‘alone’ among the Royals, but never alone enough ‘to operate as an actual family’, whatever that means.

Either way, the couple’s suffering is depicted in military metaphors: they arrived in Canada last Christmas ‘shell-shocked’; they left the UK, ‘battered and bruised’; Harry likened the process of separating himself from The Firm to ‘standing in front of a firing squad’.

>span class="s8">suggest with wearing inevitability, ‘victims’. What becomes clear in these pages is that we are being yoked into the usual battle between the zero-tolerance snowflake generation, with their Cancel Culture and radars for detecting ‘micro-aggressions’, and the dinosaurs who expect you simply to get on with whatever it is you are being paid a shedload of money to do.

So what was it exactly that left the Duke and Duchess as wounded as First World War soldiers? This is the book’s great revelation. When Harry met Meghan, William apparently suggested that rather than rushing into anything with ‘this girl’, he take his time. It is hard to believe that a former party-loving, big-game-hunting Turbo Sloane like Harry could find snobbery embedded in the term ‘this girl’. So we have to assume that it is Meghan who explained that she, and therefore he (they had by now become one person), was being insulted and William had to be what is known as ‘called out’.

Because Scobie and Durand say nothing about the power distribution in the relationship, this is just my guess. It could equally be that Harry had felt patronised for years by William, and this comment was the final straw.

We are left at the end with the question we began with: who calls the shots? Is it Harry, with his deep loathing of the press and desire to fulfil his mother’s legacy? Or is it Meghan, who, in one of her most priceless remarks, mournfully concedes that ‘the powers [of the institution] are unfortunately greater than me’?

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