Disappointing climax Now nearly 60, I have suffered from premature ejaculation for most of my life. But I’ve just met a wonderful woman and have fallen in love for the first time in my life. Everything is fine – except in the bedroom. I’ve read books about it, but nothing seems to work. She is so understanding and says it doesn’t matter at all, but I so long to have a full sexual experience with her and be able to give her the pleasure she deserves. Can you help me? Name and address supplied
A I only recently discovered that Jack Nicholson – yes, the famous star himself – suffered with this when he was young and, with help, overcame it to transform himself into a notorious lover and womaniser. Have you seen your GP and asked for referral to a sex therapist? Or you could contact the Institute of Psychosexual Medicine (ipm.org.uk) for advice. I can understand your wanting to give your lover pleasure, but do believe her when she says it doesn’t matter. Don’t try to think her thoughts or feel her feelings for her. It never works.
